Love. Ishq. Amour. Pyaar.
This one thing, I don’t even know what to call it, but this one thing, has the power to take over our lives. To posses us and hold us captive, even when we don’t know it. It sneaks in and drives us crazy. It is the only thing that has the power to change us; to make us do things we never thought we would do. It can make us overcome our fears, leave our comfort zones behind, and take leaps of faith. It is the driving force between most songs, movies, and actions. It is encompassing and it takes everyone prisoner and leaves no one untouched. It is very much like the plague, and in some circumstances, it is.
But why? Why does this one little emotion, kept so hidden in the depths of our heart, have so much power over us. And how? How can it alter the chemical releases in our body and change us completely? It is amazing how God has given it so much power. Why do we, as human beings, chase after it, want it, and keep it close, when we have everything we could possibly ever need? And if we don’t have something, we can come up with a way to create it. But if we don’t have that thing, we go insane, and drive ourselves into the ground to get it. It is one of the few things that cannot be forced onto anyone else. It just needs to be felt. It is either there, or it’s not.
It makes us feel safe. Secure. Wanted. Needed. It is beautiful, patient, kind, honest, and friendly. It almost gives us a purpose and makes life interesting. You have a companion. Someone who will stay by your side to walk the journey of life with you and you will never be alone again. You see, these movies, Hollywood and Bollywood, fantasize over it and having it. It plays the story in every single movie of a guy and girl. Always in different scenarios, but the same story with the same emotion. Love. And when you watch that story unfold, when you see them falling in love and ending up together happy and married and forever, you can’t help but want that. They play with your head, your emotions, and suddenly, before you even saw it coming, it encapsulates you. Takes you whole without any warning. And you know why they call it “falling” in love? Wikipedia explains it perfectly:
The use of the term “fall” implies that the process is in some way inevitable, uncontrollable, risky, irreversible, and that it puts the lover in a state of vulnerability, in the same way the word “fall” is used in the phrase “to fall ill” or “to fall into a trap”.
Look at these key words. Inevitable. Uncontrollable. Irreversible. Vulnerability. And you know the craziest part? Once you’re in it, there’s no escaping. You don’t even have to have a specific someone in mind, but just the idea of having it one day can eat you alive just the same.
But remember, love is only what you make it. Love has to be give and take. It cannot be one-sided and most of the time, it is not all happiness and roses. But, love means that you know someone is there for you, no matter what. And sometimes, you’ll have to put yourself aside and do things without expectations. That, is true love.
I love you Mimi.
“We’re all a little weird. And life is weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.” -Dr. Seuss