4AM Friends

Dear Mimi,

Awhile ago, I met this guy who was absolutely incredible. Smart, tall, funny, handsome, and more, he was everything I had ever wanted. Naturally, what is the first thing I did after I met said guy? I’m a girl, so obviously I’m gonna tell my best friends.

Now, here’s the thing about our friendship. We don’t see each other often, but when we do, we hang out for hours and talk about everything. It’s like there was never a break in between. Sure, sometimes we text each other, and talk on the phone, but nothing beats in-person conversation.

So one night, after getting frappés from McDonald’s, we sat in her car in my driveway, as I told her all about him. I vented to her about my insecurities, how I was excited, yet terrified, eager, yet cautious. After listening to me get giddy over some dude I had only met a few times, she asked me a question, “How much do you think it’ll wreck you if it doesn’t work out?”

At the time, it was a slap in the face. I paused out of shock and she repeated herself. I answered honestly, but I was baffled. Why would she ask me something like that? Shouldn’t she be excited for me? I know she wasn’t jealous since she was already engaged, and I was so confused. Why would she think about that? Even I hadn’t thought about that. And why would she choose that as the first question to ask? What kind of person does that?

Well Mimi, a true friend does that.

You see, she was asking me the questions I was too afraid to ask myself. She was protecting me from getting hurt or getting too entangled by making me consider a possibility I didn’t want to. She, in her own subtle way, was reminding me to ground myself. If she had told me straight up, perhaps I wouldn’t have listened so attentively.

These are the friends we need Mimi. Friends who see things that we don’t; friends that understand us, sometimes, better than we understand ourselves. Friends who will always want the best for you and will do whatever it takes to make sure you get it, even if they know the truth will hurt you.

Find these friends, and hold on to them. Those who aren’t afraid to tell it like it is. Those who will support you even if they don’t agree with you. Those who make you think about what you really want. Those who push you to your limits and encourage your dreams. Those who make you think about all the possibilities. Those who will lift you up when it seems everyone else is pushing you down. Those who see the light in you when you’re convinced that it’s gone. Those who include you in their futures. Those who you can spend hours laughing with. Those who are your soulmates before any guy ever was. Those who feel lucky to have a friend like you. Those who already know your deepest and darkest fears. Those who you can spend forever with and still not run out of things to discuss. Those who make you feel like together, you can rule the world. Those who you trust. Those who you can call at 4AM.

One of my favorite sayings (hadiths) of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) says that “souls that recognize each another unite in harmony, and those that do not are at odds”. This means that we knew our friends in heaven, and God has blessed us with meeting them again on the Earth. May He grant us all friends that we will reunite with again in Heaven, and until then, make the journey on Earth a little more enjoyable.

Love,

Didi

Friends show their love in times of trouble, not in happiness. ~Euripides

True friends say good things behind your back, and bad things to your face.

 

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20 Little Known Inspirational Quotes AKA 20 New Quotes to Caption Your Facebook Photos With

Dear Mimi,

Quotes are the best because often times, someone else speaks the words better than we can speak them ourselves. Here are some of the lesser known quotes, yet still powerful. And the ones that really haven’t made the 428 rounds on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/Tumblr to gain the rite of passage of being an “actual quote” yet. Does that make these immature baby quotes?

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  1. “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.” –Vincent Van Gogh
  1. “When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” –Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist 
  1. “You never have to change anything you got up in the middle of the night to write.” –Saul Bellow
  1. “The firmest friendships have been formed in mutual adversity,
    as iron is most strongly united by the fiercest flame.” –Charles Caleb Colton
  1. “In the sky there are always answers and explanations for everything: every pain, every suffering, joy and confusion.” –Ishmael Beah, A Long Way Gone: Memoirs of a Boy Soldier
  1. “You must give everything to make your life as beautiful as the dreams that dance in your imagination.” –Roman Payne
  1. “The fact that you are still alive assures you that God has something for you to accomplish.” –Rodney A. Winters
  1. “We can become inspired to shape a higher, more ideal future, and when we do, miracles happen.” –James Redfield, The Tenth Insight: Holding the Vision
  1. “You never know when the truth will come home. You can’t choose the time. The time chooses you.” –Rick Yancey, The Infinite Sea
  1. “I’ve come to realize that sometimes, what you love most is what you have to fight the hardest to keep.” –Kirsten Hubbard, Wanderlove
  1. “To recognize that the greatest error is not to have tried and failed, but that in trying, we did not give it our best effort.” –Gene Kranz
  1. “The most powerful weapon on Earth is the human soul on fire.” –Dale Partridge
  1. “Failure is when you give up. A real winner is someone that doesn’t give up, even when it feels like they are losing.” –Joshua Hartzell
  1. “If pain is a pot of boiling water, humor can be the rising steam.” –Cameron Conaway, Caged: Memoirs of a Cage-Fighting Poet
  1. “I am not afraid of tomorrow for I have seen yesterday, I have today and I know Him who holds tomorrow so I know tomorrow will be beautiful for me.” –Jaachynma N.E. Agu, The Best Option
  1. “We wait for the rains to cease, the clouds to part, and the sun to shine before saying life is good. Ironically, it is because we endure the storms that life seems so wonderfully bright at their passing.” –Richelle E. Goodrich
  1. “Keep smiling and one day, life will get tired of upsetting you.” –Unknown
  1. “Life is like a landscape. You like in the midst of it but can describe it only from the vantage point of distance.” – Charles Lindbergh
  1. “The more sand has escaped from the hourglass of life, the clearer we should see through it.” –Niccolo Machiavelli
  1. “We all have two lives. The second one starts when we realize we only have one.” –Tom Hiddleston

Love,

Didi